Center Your Life Around: You
The world teaches women to be an afterthought. That your life is more valuable in helping other’s achieve their goals and by others I mean mostly: men. It’s a given that men center their lives around themselves - there’s simply no other option contrary to this in their minds. Why wouldn’t a man center his life around his dreams and goals - they are certainly more important than a woman’s, right? The man needs to provide therefore his work or career goals are more valuable to the family. Men’s work and abilities are more valuable than a woman’s in the scheme of the world . They created civilization, right ? When’s the last time you heard of a woman inventing anything ? All of this is nonsense and simply the results of a male driven society where in the past women did not get the same access to education and opportunities and for a long time didn’t have basic rights like voting, ownership and autonomy. Once again we don’t even have the right to say what happens with our bodies. Women should learn to center themselves in their lives. My generation was under the illusion that we were doing that but what I see with women in their 20’s now I’m like wow - they are really actually doing it. Being single and/or choosing not to have children especially in your 20’s - I think this is the best idea. The worst thing that happened in my life was choosing to be in a relationship in my teens and 20’s. I am envious of the young women who are really focusing on themselves and living their dreams. I was forced to abandon my dreams and my life at 22 years old and I’ve suffered everyday until now for it. I choose to suffer no longer. To let go of the what could have been’s , to release the disappointment and the shame but I still wish I would have chosen different. Near 40 I made the choice to have a child because I truly wanted one. Besides some postpartum depression and the baby being colic - everything has gone very well. I obviously don’t suggest everyone to wait until they are 40 because my circumstances were a bit unique but I do advocate for spending your teens and twenties not focusing on men or romance but learning about yourself and focusing on your own dreams and desires. Learning to place your focus on yourself and not men is paramount. I think of all I could have potentially achieved and done without dating. But I was shy and naive in many ways. I was mostly without a father and under the impression that I needed a man to navigate the world. There is not sorrow in everything that happened to me in those years . I do have some great memories and experiences here and there that I do truly cherish like my experience with the indigenous community, my favorite job , a few friendships, and some truly unique experiences and learning that I will never forget and wouldn’t have been exposed to otherwise. I thank the Universe and the Creator for this. I wish to walk in beauty for the rest of my life. To walk forward in peace. To not look back and regret. I wish for my thoughts and my words to be beautiful. I wish to have peace and calm in my soul. I wish for beauty in all things and I wish that for everyone, especially women. Love and cherish yourself. No one may ever truly love you as much as you love yourself. It is potentially the most important relationship you will ever have. Don’t throw yourself away especially because of or for a man. Center your life around yourself. Life is not just made for men - it is for all of us. The dreams written on your heart matter. Even if they seem insignificant. The Universe has called you here for a reason. The Creator longed for you - to love you, to watch you grow, to watch you fall but get back up, to watch you WIN, to see your heart filled with joy. The Creator wants those dreams to be fulfilled. The Creator is longing to see you smile. Your life is beautiful, even in the darkness, even though you are sometimes filled with fear - REMEMBER: all you have to do is OPEN YOUR EYES. The Creator is waiting for you to see how beautiful you are, how special you are, that you are the center of everything He created for you. You can not play someone else’s story because you think so little of yourself. Each role is profound and perfect, do not interject your human understanding or analysis. You are a darling beauty to the Creator : open your eyes to the truth. Darkness is the illusion. The concept that you are insignificant is nonsense and cruel. You would not be here if you were not important. Whether your parents or partners, family or friends valued or loved you is irrelevant - the Universe brought you here to be loved and cherished. It’s quite a miracle to exist. You are a dream in itself . You are the miraculous dream of beauty, the longing and awe of a benevolent Creator. You must listen to your soul - to the dreams inside your heart - open them up : let them smile, let them dance , let them sing. Be not humbled, or shunned, or be rejected or neglected. Your mission is to listen to your soul - to laugh, to smile, to sing to dance, to feel joy - to make the Creator smile. You are the joy of the Universe, personified. You are not a helper. You are the main character. Sing and be beautiful. You are an unstoppable miracle. Pick yourself up and dance again.
